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The Gift

There is a story that told about a father’s birthday gift to his 18-year-old son. There was a father who had been searching for the perfect present for his son’s birthday. He sought and searched for the present that would express his love, dreams, and ambitions for his son. He wanted something so special that his son wouldn’t soon forget the gift he received. Then one day while he was out looking he found it and it was perfect, it was the gift that said everything he wanted to say. So the Father was so excited about the gift hand wrapped the gift himself and put a bright colored bow on it.


What I Deserve

When the son’s birthday came, the Father left the gift for him on the kitchen counter. When the son came downstairs that day and saw the gift sitting on the table. He rushed over and ripped the wrapping off and opened the package and almost immediately a wave of disappointment came over him and then he began to get downright angry because the present was not what he expected, it wasn’t what he felt he deserved. Before his Father arrived home, he began to complain about the gift to his siblings. The son complained to anyone who would listen to him. The child was upset and decided he would share his feelings with his Father.

Later that evening, when the Father returned home, he couldn’t wait to see what the son thought of the present. To the Father’s surprise, his son was very disappointed with the gift. Seeing his child’s reaction, the Father began to explain the gift choice to his son. He said, Son, I know that the present may not be what you expected, it may not be what you wanted, but it’s MY gift to you. I did not choose the present based on what you wanted or expected. The gift expresses what I knew you needed. In giving you what you needed, it shows my love, my ambition, my hope for you.

Disappointed Child

Tendencies of the Son

How often are we like this son? How often do we overlook or discard the present we have been given, because it wasn’t what we wanted, it wasn’t what we expected, it wasn’t what we asked for. furthermore it wasn’t even wrapped the way we like. We would never act like this son, would we?

Stop Complaining!

Have you ever met someone that starts the morning by complaining? How are you unhappy first thing in the morning, I think to myself. Sometimes the events from days prior linger into the next day the first thing in the morning, they are unhappy with yesterday’s events any other day prior. Here’s the thing, everything that you have is a gift. We are not entitled to anything! Everything we have is a gift. From the moment we wake up in the morning until we fall asleep at night.

We should never be upset when we do not get what we want or even expect for that matter. Consider for a moment that you have exactly what you need for this moment. A good Father will put your needs ahead of your wants and expectations. When we complain about what we don’t have, we have lost, we minimize what we have. There is nothing more tragic than not recognizing the gift in everything we have or get. Be grateful for everything you receive. You can read more about gratitude here.


E.N.Howie is a native Washingtonian who has been fortunate to experience some life-altering circumstances that have given him a different way to look at challenges. In some circles, he would be described as an eternal optimist. He believes there is a bright side to even the darkest of experiences if you will search for the light. He is a husband, mentor, community-centered individual and a sharer of inspiration.