The 3 Most Important Days of Your Life

The 3 most important days of your life seems to clash with a quote we have all heard a bunch of times. A famous Mark Twain quote says the two most important days of your life are the day you were born and the day you discover why.


“Your life purpose consists of the central motivating aims of your life—the reasons you get up in the morning. Purpose can guide life decisions, influence behavior, shape goals, offer a sense of direction and create meaning. For some people, purpose is connected to vocation—meaningful, satisfying work.”
Tony Robbins

“Bringing enjoyment to God, living for his pleasure, is the first purpose of your life.” “The Bible says, ‘Whatever you do, work at it with all your heart, as working for the Lord, not for men. ‘” “Since pleasing God is the first purpose of your life, your most important task is to discover how to do that.”

Rick Warren

To find your calling, the thing that you feel you are wired and created to do. For several years I’ve worked with youth, and this week I found myself driving and feeling so full of emotions from fulfillment. A few things happened over the last few weeks, and too many people, it may be small, but to me, they were significant. On Father’s day, I received a text thanking me for something I taught to group a youth years ago. A young man is going into his second year in college said, I wake up every day thinking about what you taught us about choices. He went on to say, ” I didn’t get it then, but I get it now, thank you .”

Shortly thereafter, I had the opportunity to hire 4 youth after talking about it for years. Back then, I could clearly see what I wanted to accomplish, so I talked about it often. I listened to Tony Robbins some years ago, and he spoke of clarity of what you wanted. However, today I am looking at the clarity of purpose. There was a time in life. I wasn’t sure what I was meant to do, but in the last few weeks, I gained a tremendous amount of clarity.

People talk about purpose

People talk about purpose all the time. Knowing what you are here to do is only part of the equation. Because if you know it but never do it. You are robbing yourself of the fulfillment that comes with living in and acting on your purpose. Now, I want to disabuse of the idea of knowing your purpose and living out your purpose are all that matter.

It’s Not! I am sharing with you in this week’s episode what I learned. About a year ago, I would have told you knowing and living your purpose, was it. Moreover, I would have said that was the key to fulfillment because I didn’t know any better then. Today, I want to share with you the other element, and that is place.

Picture This

Picture a potted plant being placed in a pot too small. There is nowhere for the roots to hold on to the nutrients it needs. Furthermore, the roots are exposed to light and elements that are not good for the root system. Now take that same plant and put it in a pot that is too big. You currently have a different set of problems. However, one issue will persist between the small pot and the oversized pot.

The growth of the plant will significantly be diminished if it grows at all. Your purpose is the same in that it has to have a place that it fits. I remember being in a place where I knew what I was wired to do, but there was no room to live it out. So I had the purpose but not the venue. Being in the wrong place and knowing your purpose can be draining and frustrating. There are two simple goals today. 1. Answer the question as to whether you know your purpose. If so, are you living it out? 2. Are you in the right place?

Mark Twain was partially right

Contrary to Mark Twain’s quote, there are three valuable days of your life. So the three most important days of your life are the day you are born, when, why, and where.
The date you were born is the “when.” You know, the period of time in which you were born.

Do not oversimplify the timeline of your life. Because your purpose is deeply connected to the context of your existence. For example, you have lived in the Me Too, Covid19, and the Black Lives Matter era thus far. When you were born is an integral part of your purpose because it is for this time.

The 3 Elements

The Why – What on earth am I here to do? I can’t speak for anyone else, but if I use myself as an example, I know that I am here to teach, mentor, and inspire through loving relationships. The thing I learned is that I may know it, but it doesn’t fit everywhere. Believe it or not, just because it’s your purpose doesn’t mean people want it in their place.
The Where – The hardest thing to grasp sometimes is that you and I are not for everybody and every place. There is a place best suited for my gifts, talents, calling, purpose. Whatever way you phrase it, there is an excellent place for it, and we owe it ourselves to find that place.

I came up with a bit of an equation that seemed to work for me. Knowing Your Purpose + Living Out Your Purpose +The Right Place = Fulfillment x2

Here is the takeaway, the 3 most important days are essential to discover what you are here for, Do like Nike says and just do it, Then find the right place where you fit and keep doing it you will find fulfillment.

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