Not a Complet Accident

“Happen To” Is Part of the Journey

Why do bad things happen to good people? If there is anything we should have learned about life is that it is a journey.  I have learned that along this journey; everyone has a residence in two principles. The principles are simple in the fact that no matter who you are or what you do, you will not escape this life without being affected by something. In other words, we don’t get out of this life without having something happen to us. If it’s an ailment, financial difficulties, relationship issues, social issues, injuries and loss of loved ones. There is nothing you can do that will effectively stop this or to put it another way, life proof you. The issues of life do not care where you live or what you drive. Everybody is in this category. That’s right; you and I are people that things  WILL “happen to.” 

“Growth is never by mere chance; it is the result of forces working together.” –James Penney

“Happen For You” A Category of Choice

However, there is another category that you don’t necessarily fall in. This other category is strictly a category of choice. You must choose this category continuously. What works in your favor is a lifelong category that you can quit at any time, or you can start at any time. The one category you must choose is the “Happen For” category. You are born into the category of the “Happen To” but we must choose to be the kind of people that something will “happen for.”

Nothing Just Happens

Ladies and gentlemen, ( I Believe) NOTHING JUST HAPPENS! I also believe that even the things that happen to us are a divine effort to have things happen for us. We have to be careful when things happen to us because we could miss the duality of something working on our behalf at the same time. There is work in choosing to see the benefits in a bad situation. It is work to put in the effort that makes you feel like you are getting nowhere. Remember, when things happen for us there is work involved, even if it’s just deciding to move forward. One of the most important steps we can take is to keep our eyes, minds, and hearts open so we can see the potential of things is working for us.

Everything Yields To Pressure

Here’s the takeaway, Everything in nature will falter under enough pressure. When you have a consistent amount of force over time. When we choose to work for things to happen we put pressure on the outcome. Even a diamond will shatter when placed under the proper amount of force for the right length of time. But in that same vein diamonds are created from pressure over time. The value of the diamond is not its formation alone. The diamond would be useless if remained buried in the earth. However, when time and energy is used to gather it, clean it, cut it and polish it. Then the true value of the diamond is revealed. Time and pressure happened to the diamond, but work and effort happened for the diamond. Things will always happen to you that’s nature, but for something to happen for you, that’s choice.

Motivation One Moment At A Time


E.N.Howie is a native Washingtonian who has been fortunate to experience some life-altering circumstances that have given him a different way to look at challenges. In some circles, he would be described as an eternal optimist. He believes there is a bright side to even the darkest of experiences if you will search for the light. He is a husband, mentor, community-centered individual and a sharer of inspiration.