The People We Meet Along The Way

Mentorship was not even on my radar until approximately eight years ago, I met a man who dramatically changed the way I viewed my past experiences and the way I look at the future. He is a giant of a man, not in his physical description but in his ability to be soft-spoken, yet effective. I had the privilege to spend many years learning what he taught. Although he did more than explain, he made it his business to create opportunities for me to demonstrate what I learned. While I was demonstrating what I learned, he encouraged me to be authentically me in style and approach to the craft. It has been some years now since that experience, and I have come into the full understanding of what he was doing and what he is. That man along with many others is a mentor to me.

Be Teachable

Everyone needs at least one mentor. Actually, we need a mentor for any area of our lives we consider to be significant. However, we must arrive at this understanding of need all by ourselves. While a mentor is an instrument of help and support, they cannot make us position ourselves to be teachable. John Maxwell, author, and speaker lists teachability as an indicator of growth. It is impossible to grow and accept new tasks, new responsibilities, new opportunities without the willingness to learn. A teacher is useless unless a student is present and willing to receive what the teacher offers.


Unlearn What Does Not Apply

Being teachable is difficult at times because it requires more than just learning. Sometimes, the learning is unlearning what was right for one place, but not suitable everywhere. There is some learning that is situation specific, and then there are others that have a universal application. How do we learn to navigate the difference? When we find ourselves in uncharted waters, we need someone who has not only charted but traveled the seas. This is the role of the mentor. There is a saying of leaders ” A leader knows the way, goes the way, and shows the way.” Mentoring is a leadership role that is founded on a good relationship that moves two individuals in a single direction for a time.

Born With Limitations

Do we really need a mentor? Yes, and it is best described by Bob Proctor “A mentor is someone who sees more talent and ability within you, than you see in yourself, and helps bring it out of you.” Human beings are created to do a bunch of amazing things, but we cannot see ourselves. What a beautiful limitation to be dependent on others to see us as we are. A mentor is not merely someone who understands, but they see us in three dimensions.

The three dimensions of a mentors sight are 1. Our Present 2. Our Potential 3. Our Possibilities.

The Present

The present view allows the consideration of the good, the bad and the ugly. We can easily share the good its easy to do because it paints us in a good light. On the other hand, the bad is difficult to share since it shows areas that we are not proud of, but we can share it. However, the ugly can only be garnered through a relationship of trust and a feeling of security with an individual. We do not just hand over our ugly file to just anyone. Everything that makes us who we are at the moment is what the mentor views and considers for the second piece to the puzzle.

The Potential

There will be times that you show a glimpse of the gift and the mentor will see it. A good mentor will challenge the potential of a mentee by putting them in positions to confirm what he or she suspects concerning us. How would you know how deep a well goes until you drop something in it. Another word for potential is capacity, and a mentor will test the ability of the mentee.

The Possibilities

Our present and potential only matters when the questioned is asked. What can they do with the combination of their past experiences and their gifts? When a mentor begins to add these things up, they gain an understanding of what is possible for us. Then there is only one thing left for any mentor to do. PUSH! That’s right, a good mentor is pushy. They push because they see what we cannot. They push because they know its exactly what we need. They push because they do not want us to squander opportunities to become what we should be. They push because they see more in us than we see in ourselves. Do you need a push? Get a Mentor.

 

Motivation One Moment At A Time

Howie

E.N.Howie is a native Washingtonian who has been fortunate to experience some life-altering circumstances that have given him a different way to look at challenges. In some circles, he would be described as an eternal optimist. He believes there is a bright side to even the darkest of experiences if you will search for the light. He is a husband, mentor, community-centered individual and a sharer of inspiration.